Saturday, July 12, 2008

I feel limited today in what I can do about my eldest son....Julian. It has been and is a long, hard and tiring road with him. I feel sometimes as I am going to explode with frustration as he throws his life away......there is only so much you can do as a parent, watching from the sidelines. I just can not take his anger and abuse any longer and must ask him to leave. There are other children present in my home watching, idolizing him and the behaviour......I am exhausted, sad and feel powerless. I have to change that for me and my other children. Wish me luck.....

6 comments:

katie said...

i'm so sorry, this sounds so very hard christina. wishing you strength, courage and tough love to follow your intuition.

btw...i just started following your blog a week ago. as you already know, i love your art.

Shonna said...

I'm sorry you are having a tough time right now. You know what is best for your family and I'm sure this will be hard, but you have to follow your instincts. My thoughts are with you.

anni said...

Oh, life is hard sometimes!

This program really helped me. I don't know if it would work for older children, but it was a lifesaver for me and my kids when they were growing up. It helped to keep things in perspective and take the burden off my shoulders and put it on the shoulders of the child or in this case, the grown child.
It is called "Love and Logic." There are books and online stuff.

I hope that all will be well with you.
Anni

anni said...

Christina,

Maybe this will cheer you up!

I nominated you for an award. Go to my blog to see it.

Anni

Christina Romeo said...

I just have to say a huge thank you to you wonderfully supportive creative women.....I appreciate all of your kind words!!! I can feel the warmth and love from you guys.....
My 17 year old son has been dealing with drug and alcohol issues as well as anger and behavior issues probably brought on by the drugs and alcohol....I feel so bad as a parent but I know he must leave or he will never learn to trust himself or grow....it is so scary though cause all you want to do is fix them for them!
Thanks so much for caring all of you.
xoxo

Sandy said...

Christina- first time visitor- L*O*V*E your blog. Your comments yesterday, were as if I was reading something I wrote. The only difference is it is my 17 yr old daughter. Much like you, I have other children in the house, and she had become just too disruptive. She just graduated, and is floundering. I cry many tears in trying to save her from all the troubles, but I am realizing she has her own life to live. There is not one moment that I am not thinking of ways to help guide her. I continue to tell her I love her, and believe she knows the right thing to do with her life. I tell her she is smart, and completely capable of making the best for herself. No more excuses or blame. Hopefully some of this sinks in.
If ever you want to talk, please dont hesitate.
xoxoxo Sandy